First time pregnancies

Kylie Lehane (Assistant Manager at ATC) and Laura Stevens (Manager at ACA) have been instrumental in our great “we are mums too” marketing campaign and are responsible for the marketing and in particular social media and our Blogs. They are both pregnant and are expecting their first babies this year in September and October respectively. They normally interview our lovely mums for information for our blogs and I thought I would turn it around and interview them:-

 

1.Being pregnant for the first time how have you found it and any milestones or funny antidote’s you could share with us?

Kylie – So far my pregnancy has been very straightforward with no complications and barely any of the regular symptoms. To be honest, until I started getting a little larger in the tummy area I still wasn’t convinced I was actually pregnant due to my lack of symptoms. I understand I’ve been very lucky so far and am not taking it for granted, hopefully the rest of my pregnancy will run as smoothly.

Laura – My pregnancy from the off has been a rollercoaster experience, it hasn’t seemed that straight forward for me however slowly but surely I seem to be getting used to it. Obviously we are very excited however each milestone of pregnancy that the book may tell you a symptom you could possibly get  … seemed to be happening. The worst for me has been the sickness and having no control over my body. Sickness lasted from around 7 weeks to 18/19 weeks pregnant not just in the mornings it decided to appear in the evenings too.

2. You are both in important roles within Daybreak, how have you found combining both working and your pregnancy.

Kylie – So far it hasn’t affected my job or responsibilities in any way. As aforementioned I had no morning sickness so was able to continue as normal. As I get bigger I’m starting to feel a little more tired and achy at the end of the day and realise that I won’t be able to do some of the more strenuous jobs soon but I aim to carry on as normal as much as possible. As I get further along and need more midwife appointments and other such appointments I feel guilty for having to take time away being part of a very busy nursery, but I try as much as possible to schedule them around shifts or previously booked annual leave days.

Laura – Becoming pregnant hasn’t affected my job role or responsibilities within the work place however I have had to priorities especially my mornings to allow enough time to get up and sort the morning sickness out to ensure I can still get to work on time. I have found working during my pregnancy nice. I have received some lovely comments and advice from parents and my staff team are very supportive, especially when it comes to me stretching or lifting things (ev4.en if I do tell them I can do it). I am starting to get more tired but I am lucky to have a good team around me and we keep everybody motivated which helps take you mind off the little niggles.

 

3. Being in a management role as you know can be extremely busy and exhausting on a day to day basis, when pregnant, tiredness levels can also be increased. What are your tips for coping with possible added tiredness?

Kylie – Again I didn’t suffer too much from tiredness. I had the odd day were I felt really exhausted and would fall asleep once I got home but during the day, while going about my daily jobs at the nursery  I always feel fine and so far, it hasn’t affected my roles and responsibilities.

Laura – I have found that you really do need to listen to your body, there has been some evenings I have come home from work got in the bath and been in bed quite early but that just seems to help, sometimes we all need an early night. I have found what you are eating has an impact on this too, there is no use having snacks and sugar boosts to help you get through the day, A lot of water and fruit is my key plus it seems to be what baby wants! Win win!

 

4. Has being pregnant changed the way you think about your policies and procedures and how effective they are?

Kylie – This hasn’t been something I’ve really thought about to be honest. I’m sure once I’ve had the baby and I return to work (hopefully with baby in tow) the nurseries policies and procedures will affect me more as a parent, especially the illnesses procedures and exclusion periods, there might be some relying on grandparents to look after a potentially ill child so I can still work.

Laura – There have been a few things as we prepare for baby and thinking about babies life at Daybreak. I find that when I am in manager meetings I can relate allot more to parent questions or worries because I start to think well how would that make me feel. However from a Nursery Nurse point of view the policies are in place for a reason and we have to remember that.

5. Has it helped you by working in a nursery and seeing the small babies and children grow to prepare for motherhood?

Kylie – I think it has definitely helped prepared me to an extent. I feel like I know a little about what to expect and have some ideas about the kind of parent I wish to be. Although of course you never really know, every child is different and I may change my mind completely once the baby is actually here. I’m open minded and me and my husband will go with the flow as much as possible in response to what the baby needs. 

Laura – I have been slightly out of the loop of babies for a few years but thinking back to working at Rickmansworth as a room leader watching the children come into the setting as babies and leaving the pre-school at graduation is an amazing thing! Everybody says the time goes so quickly so we are ready to embrace every minute of it. As much as watching the children learn and grow, I am unsure anybody can prepare us for what we have coming … (haha)

6. Are you both ready for your maternity leave and the imminent birth of your babies?

Kylie – I’ve just recently planned for when I go on maternity leave, it was very surreal as I’ve been at Daybreak for 10 years this year and can’t imagine not coming in everyday. Although I must admit I’m really looking forward to a little ‘me’ time before the baby arrives and obviously spending the proceeding time with my new baby. I’m certainly not ready for the baby yet and still have a lot to buy and prepare and I’m certainly not ready for labour . . . but who is?

Laura – To be honest maternity leave is something that hasn’t really crossed my mind yet obviously we are putting things in place for the nursery for when I do leave however it hasn’t really sunk it that I will be going. In my head, baby is going to pop out and I will be back at work before you know it. However my partner and I do have a “babymoon” coming up so it will be so nice to spend some time together before we are ready for our little man to arrive. With regard to the labour… there’s no going back he’s coming out either way and I will be going in with that attitude.

 

7. Have the children helped you choose any names for your baby? (when I was pregnant preschool wanted to call my baby Hercules or Princess Aurora LOL)

Kylie – As I work in the baby unit with the toddlers (18mths to 30mths) they’re not really aware of my pregnancy or have any ideas about names. We have ‘The Break’ children (afterschool club) in our area downstairs and they are always asking about my baby, they like to touch my bump and ask me whether it’s a boy or girl (which I’m not finding out).

Laura – As I have only just started the show I’m not sure the children could get their head around the fact that I am having a baby. A few of the children will say “Laura, you have a baby in your tummy, I have a baby too”. I think as I get bigger the names will be something we discuss.. pretty sure it will have something to do with frozen or super hero’s knowing our pre-school children.

 

8. Have any parents offered you any advice or pearls of wisdom about becoming a mum?

Kylie – I‘ve had lots of congratulations and parents asking me how I’m feeling but so far no pearls of wisdom. One parent has very kindly offered me her old car seat at a low price but being our first born we’re quite keen to buy all new and unused baby paraphernalia, but we are extremely grateful for her thoughtfulness.

Laura – I have received a lot of support and some lovely emails. Many of the dads in particular have joked how our life’s are going to change.. Some Words of wisdom from our mums is to look after myself and listen to my body, which is the main thing I have been trying to do.  I am now looking forward to becoming a first time mummy and joining in with being able to say “We are mums too!

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Kylie is due in September                                    Laura is due in October

 

Thanks for your time and great answers ladies, we look forward to meeting both babies in the near future and perhaps having a follow up interview about how you’re both finding motherhood.
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Fathers day #wearedadstoo

Father’s Day is fast approacjohn-charlottehing and we to get a perspective through the eyes of a father. John is not only a Daybreak Daddy but his wife Sam Kingman also works at Rickmansworth Town Centre, Sam is Assistant Manager and Early Years Professional.

Sam and John had beautiful Charlotte in May 2015. Sam returned to work 4 days a week in January 2016, also bringing Charlotte to Nursery 2 days a week.

1)      Hi John thank you for agreeing to our interview as a Daybreak Daddy! Firstly how is parenthood for you?

It was a steep learning curve for me but I love every moment of it.  It has helped that Sam has experience so she’s led me in things I’ve not done before.

2)      When baby Charlotte started at Daybreak how did you feel about her being at nursery? Did it help knowing that Sam was in office?

I was happy Charlotte started at nursery because I understand how important it is for children to socialise and learn new things from a young age.   It did help knowing Sam was in the office at first as she could also keep me posted on how Charlotte was doing but after time it didn’t really make a difference as the team in her room have, especially her key worker, have shown how much they care for her.

3)      Were you worried about Charlotte settling in ok and how easy was that process for you as a family?

I think Sam was more worried than I was but as a parent you’re always going to worry. I think it was slightly easier for me as I wasn’t there at the drop offs and I was unaware, as such, of the challenges we may have to go through for Charlotte to settle whereas Sam had seen it all before. The process itself was straightforward and we were informed of what progress she’d made at each settle day and things we could do to help the process. She now loves nursery and rarely wants to leave!

4)      Do you think Charlotte benefits from being at nursery more so than she would at home or with a childminder?

Yes I think having children of her age around her helps to develop her social skills and she takes part in a variety of activities which helps develop her overall knowledge and understanding. I feel she benefits more from being at nursery then she would going to a child-minder or being at home.

5)      Do you feel involved in Charlotte’s nursery life? If so how?

I didn’t at first, as Sam was there to keep an eye! But now I regularly read her daily diary and then try to help her overcome any issues she may have had e.g. not settling for sleep or not trying certain foods.

Behaviour management

The period between 18 months and 3 years is an exciting time.  Toddlers are becoming aware that they are separate individuals from their parents and the other important people in their world.  This means that they are eager to assert themselves, communicate their likes and dislikes, and act independently (as much as they can)!  At the same time, they still have limited self-control and are just beginning to learn important skills like waiting, sharing and turn-taking.

When he is angry, frustrated, tired or overwhelmed, he may use actions such as hitting, pushing, slapping, grabbing, kicking, or biting

Like most aspects of development, there is a wide variation among children when it comes to acting out aggressively.  Children who are intense and “big reactors” tend to have a more difficult time managing their emotions than children who are by nature more easy going.  Big reactors rely more heavily on using their actions to communicate their strong feelings.

The main reason your toddler may act out aggressively is simply because they can. They’re testing the boundaries and it often feels good for them and they love the attention it gives them. They may also behave aggressively because they’re frustrated and unable to verbalise how they feel or something is not happening the way they want it to. Your toddler may also just be tired, hungry or over stimulated.

As he grows, your toddler will be able to deal with these feelings more appropriately – but it’s also important to show and explain to your toddler that aggressive behaviour, be it biting , slapping, hitting or pushing, is not the way to deal with things. The best way to deal with aggressive toddler behaviour is quickly, before he forgets about what he has done. Let him know that what he is doing is unacceptable and that there is a consequence to behaving badly. Although if it becomes an issue some children respond better to getting no attention at all for any unwanted behaviour.

Strategies for Responding to Aggression

  • Stay calm. Staying in control makes it more likely that your child will calm down more quickly.  When you get agitated, upset, and frustrated at your child’s tantrum, it often increases their distress.
  • Use words and gestures to communicate your message. Words alone may not be enough to get your toddler to stop an unacceptable activity.   To help your child understand your message, use an authoritative, matter-of-fact (not angry or screaming) voice.  At the same time, use a “stop” or “no-no” gesture along with your words.  You might say, No hitting, hitting hurts, as you take her hand and hold it by her side, firmly but not angrily. always be consistent with your discipline to avoid confusion.
  • Offer alternatives. For example for a child who loves to hurl objects, make a game out of throwing soft balls into a basket or box.
  • Try a distraction. If your child is highly agitated, try a distraction.  This is an unpredictable response your child isn’t expecting, like asking a child who is shouting angrily to join you in a game.  Or just go to her and give her a big bear hug.
  • Suggest ways to manage strong emotions. When your child is really angry, suggest that he jump up and down, hit the sofa cushions, rip paper, cuddle up in a cosy area for alone time, paint an angry picture, or some other strategy that you feel is appropriate.  What’s important is to teach your child that there are many ways to express his feelings in healthy, non-hurtful ways, and to help him practice these strategies regularly.
  • Have your child take a break. Some children actually calm down much more quickly when given the chance to be by themselves in a safe, quiet place. This is not punishment.

Children who bite

While babies often begin to bite down while they’re teething, toddlers who bite are fairly common also. Young children who bite other children usually do so to deal with frustration, feelings of powerlessness or being in a stressful moment. Biting can make them feel powerful because of the reaction and attention they get as a result of their actions.

Biting from frustration:

  • Some children bite when they get frustrated in a social situation and they’re not yet able to articulate how they feel.
  • Children who are not yet old enough to share and take turns, often resort to biting other children to get what they want
  • Younger children sometimes bite when they’re playing with older children who have control of the shared activity.

IMPORTANT!

Never, ever be tempted to bite back. This is terrifying for your child and actually reinforces the very behaviour you don’t want to encourage.

For experimental biting:

  • Don’t let your child see that you think biting is funny or a game
  • If she bites you, firmly say, ‘No! Biting hurts’ and remove her quickly from whatever part of your body she’s biting
  • If she’s teething, give her plenty of safe things to chew on

Biting from frustration:

  • If you know you have a biter, make sure that you are always supervising his interaction with other children.
  • If your child does bite firmly remove him and say ‘Biting hurts. We don’t bite’. Make a bit of a fuss over the victim – so the victim gets your attention, not your child – and restrict his play by keeping him next to you for a short while.
  • Don’t put your child into situations that you know will be difficult for him. When your child socialises with other children, keep it short and sweet.
  • Biting from frustration tends to lessen as your child matures and is able to articulate his feelings. However, some children persist in biting long after they’re able to talk about how they feel. If this is the case, you will need to help him learn other ways to manage his feelings.

Sometimes managing a toddlers behaviour is very challenging and can feel never-ending. It’s important to always remain calm, consistant and remember to be approachable for your child this means they will feel  happy and comfortable to express there emotion with you and perhaps save any unwanted aggression or frustration.

 

Weaning

We’re taking a little break in our #wearemumstoo blog posts (don’t worry we’ll be back with another staff interview soon) to focus on weaning, which for some of us can be quite a daunting transition, read on for some advice and tips to get you started.

Research has proven how significant a child’s first few years are in terms of their health and well-being. Therefore making sure your child has the best possible start in life is super important and nutrition is a big factor in how they develop and mature.

Breast feeding for the first 6 months allows for the baby to gain the richest source of nutrients and has the perfect amount of antibodies to protect and aid immunity. Although of course this isn’t always a possible option for everybody and alternatively bottle feeding formula is most definitely a safe, healthy and nutritious way to feed your young baby. There is no right way or right amount to feed a baby as they are all different but small amounts at regular intervals is suggested for most, due to small tummies and simple digestive systems.

Introducing solid foods or weaning is often a scary time for mums but remember if you’re anxious then your baby will be too. The best time to start introducing small amounts of solid foods is at around 6 months of age. This is due to your baby being able to fully sit up, hold up their own heads and their digestive systems are mature enough to cope with the different foods and textures.

Alongside your normal bottle/breast feeding schedule start to introduce small amounts of new foods. Begin with soft/mashed up foods and remember to keep trying. Just because they don’t eat it the first time doesn’t mean they won’t the next time or even the next time. At around 9 months they may start to pick up small pieces of food and feed themselves. And by one year of age your baby should be able to eat whatever the rest of the family are eating, but of course cut up and in smaller amounts.

Baby-led weaning is a little bit different to the standard weaning and is exactly as the name suggests. It is letting your baby fed themselves as and when they need to or want to. Baby led weaning is cutting up foods into manageable sticks, so they can grip them and offering them small amounts at a time. This process is aimed at allowing the child to learn how to chew first and then swallow as baby led weaning is purely manageable and nutritious finger foods, no purees or spoons. Parents need to resist the urge to help, interfere or get wound up if they are not eating. At first they may just play with their food, just grabbing and smushing it in their fists, but remember they are exploring and will try it when they are ready.

If you’re confused as to whether you want to use purees or adopt the baby led weaning process then official advice from the Department of Health, European Union and the World Health Organisation is to give both well mashed foods as well as introduce finger foods to your babies diet at around 6 months of age.

It is understandable to worry about choking or gagging but remember that babies who can sit up, hold their own heads and also control the movement of food from the front to the back of their mouths then choking is very unlikely, but of course always remain with your young baby when they are eating and keep the foods soft until they get older.

3 signs your baby is ready to wean.
  1. They can adopt the sitting position steadily and fully hold up their own heads
  2. They can co-ordinate eyes, hands and mouth meaning they can look at, pick up and put it into their mouths.
  3. They can swallow foods, if they are not ready they will simply push the food back out with their tongue.
Three very popular signs that parents mistake for being ready to wean…
  1. Chewing fists
  2. Waking in the night
  3. Wanting extra milk feeds
These are all very normal and generally common behaviours. Starting solid foods will not necessarily make your baby sleep through the night.
We hope this information has been helpful to you; we will be doing a blog post on children’s nutrition very soon so make sure you pop back to read that.

Managing the Nursery – through the eyes of a new Mum

Recently we have realised that a good percentage of our Daybreak staff are all Mums and the majority of their children are members of Daybreak. Continuing with our #wearemumstoo campaign we have another staff interview for you today this time from the manager of one of our Rickmansworth nurseries. Claire has been a staff member of Daybreak for 10 years, firstly working at Rickmansworth Town Centre nursery as a deputy manager and then becoming manager of Rickmansworth Shepherds lane when the nursery first opened in 2012.

Claire has a little boy Leo who is now 13 months old. Claire and Leo returned to Daybreak together in September 2015 after their maternity leave. Claire returned as a part time manager at RSL working on Monday to Thursday.

 

1. Hi Claire, welcome back to Daybreak. Firstly how are you finding juggling the responsibility of being a manager and a Mum too? Is it getting any easier?

I was initially worried about returning to work and getting back into a routine after having 7 months off but after just a few weeks it felt like I had never been away – in a good way!
Parents, families and staff made me feel very welcome and the management team caught me up an all the news.
At first I found it really hard to leave Leo, but knowing the team in baby room made it easier and of course I have every confidence in each and every member of the team – I employ them after all. Even so, first time mum nerves are inevitable but after just a few weeks I felt at ease and Leo settled in and now nursery feels like his second home. The staff take great care of him and I can focus on managing the nursery and have the added bonus of popping in for cuddles  with him every now and then.

2. Before you came back to work, were you really worried about your return as Shepherds Lane manager? What were you and your partner’s main concern?

My main worry was getting up and out the house by 7.30am with a baby and not being late for work!
I also worried about how Leo would settle in and how much I would miss him but now we are in a routine I really treasure our Fridays together and I feel like the work balance is right.
My husband wasn’t worried, he’s so laid back and he knew Leo would enjoy nursery.

 3. Were you worried about Leo settling in ok and how easy was that process for you as a family? Did you find it difficult not to interfere knowing Leo was close by?

I was always conscious not to make the staff feel nervous in any way about having the ‘managers son’ in the room and wanted to be treated the same as all the other parents. It’s worked  out fine, the staff are great, they know me very well and we have a good relationship. I have times where I can talk to them as a parent and times when I talk to them as a manager.

 4. How have you found coping with any illnesses Leo may have had and dealing with the policies regarding nursery exclusion periods?

Leo has had a fair bit of time off since he started nursery which I expected as children do pick up everything when they join any nursery setting. being working parents it is of course difficult at times when we both have work commitments, but when Leo is poorly, I couldn’t imagine not being there to comfort him. My husband and I take it in turns to take time off when Leo is poorly.

5. Being a manager you have a lot of responsibilities to deal with on a day to day basis. Did you struggle to get back into the swing of your job having been on maternity leave? Do you find having Leo in the same building a positive experience?

I found that I got back into the swing of things quicker than I thought I would. I enjoy my job and I am so lucky having Leo here too – its definitely a positive experience having him in the same building.

 6. If you could do it all again, would you do the same or is there any advice you would give to yourself to ease the process?

I would do the same, although not sure if I’m ready to do it all again just yet!!

 7. As a mum and a manager you are closely involved in the menu and catering at Daybreak. How have you found Leo’s introduction to foods supplied by Daybreak?

I was nervous because Leo was weaning when we started but speaking to the chef and talking about my worries has really helped and I always encourage parents to come and talk to me if they have any concerns – I wouldn’t want anyone worrying about something that we could sort out together.

 8. Do you find you have more understanding with how the nurseries parents are feeling and how you deal with their concerns?

Yes, I always felt like I tried to understand all parent’s worries, concerns or anxieties before I had Leo but now I can really relate and use examples of my own experiences. I also think when new parents join its reassuring for them to hear about the staff who have children here.

 

Thank you for your time Claire, it seems like your coping very well with the work/life balance and Leo looks like a gorgeous, happy little boy.

 

Being a new mum

Here at Daybreak we have lots of working Mums who’ve all had to go through the feared process of returning back to work. It’s such a hard thing to do when all you want is to spend time with your children and make sure they get the best possible up-bringing you can offer them. Being Mums that work in nurseries, it is perhaps a little easier for us, as we know more about nursery life, the routine and we know the staff who will be taking care of our little ones but it is of course still a hard transition for both Mother and baby and one we all want to postpone as much as possible.

Over the next few weeks, as part of our #wearemumstoo campaign we’ll be talking to various Mums who have had to return to work after having their children. They will be letting us know how it felt, how their experiences went and perhaps even how they could have prepared more in order for it to be easier.

We hope these series of blog posts will be able to help you combat your journeys back into work and we would love to hear your experiences too, so please comment below if you have any stories you would like to share.

Today we will be talking to Kylie who has been working at our Rickmansworth nursery for five years. She has a 3 year old daughter Megan and has just given birth to another little bundle of joy, Georgia, so will be making the return back to work once her maternity leave is over in a few months time.

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Hello Kylie and congratulations on your new baby. How does it feel to be a mother of two now?

Hello Daybreak, thank you very much. A mother of two, wow well it is still sinking in that I am responsible for two little ones. I wouldn’t have it any other way, I find it amazing how you can quickly adapt to change with a little one and the key is finding a medium to ensure spending time with both girls. We prepared our first child as much as we could in the up and coming months before our new bundle of joy arrived, which has definitely helped the smooth transition.

When you had your first baby were your intentions to always come back to work? How did you feel about the thought of returning to work having had a baby?

With regards to returning to work after my first child the answer is 100% yes. I think we would all love to be stay at home mums deep down, but I felt ready to get back into society. I think you know when you are ready when you start cooing and babbling to an adult ‘Slightly embarrassing’. I really thrive in a working environment, so it was important for me to continue my career and climb the ladder, I was very lucky to be able to have the best of both worlds by working part time so I still had that special time with my little one, I never missed any major milestones.

Did you start getting anxious about returning to work or were you able to enjoy your maternity leave?

I think everyone gets anxious about returning to work whether it be from Maternity leave, a lovely holiday in the sun or even a long weekend. Being anxious is not being aware of the unknown. With this in mind I’m very lucky because I have been working at Daybreak for a long time so I wasn’t really anxious returning to work. I was more anxious leaving my little one for the first time, the staff at daybreak made this transition very smooth and my little one settled in very quickly. Which was one less thing to worry about in the big transition of returning to work and finding childcare.

Do you think it will be easier or harder to return to work this time round?

This time around I think I will have to be more organised with timings especially with getting two little ones ready oh and myself of course. Having our new edition settled in childcare will play a big part in my return to work. To ensure a smooth transition for the three of us.

How easy did the girls at Daybreak make your return to work?

The staff at Daybreak made my return to work an easy one, working there for so long I already had a bond with everyone and they ensured my little one was happily settled which made me feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. All the staff at daybreak are lovely, their settling in process is great, which helped and I found my feet very quickly.

What would you advise to new mums returning to work? For example starting settles early, having various childcare options ready etc? 

My advice to new mums is be prepared and organised. Make time for you and your little one because time flies and it is crazy how quickly they change and grow. Also make time for you! With your return to work make sure you are ready because if you are not, the break away from baby will be harder, which may in fact have an effect on how your baby settles into childcare. Because  babies know everything you are feeling. With regards to childcare ensure it works for you so whether you decide a child minder or day nursery. Ensure you do all your relevant checks if you decide to have a child minder. If you decide you want your child in a day nursery then book some show arounds in and get as much information from the settings, like their daily routines, nutrition, information about the company, the area. Ask about their policies as in No Devices, no Shoes, exclusion periods for high temperatures/illnesses and their security policy on who can pick your child up, what security do they have in place when it’s not the regular parent/carers picking up and they arrive at the door and staff haven’t been informed, what procedures would the day nursery take before allowing the child to leave the premises. These are very importing things you need to check. If you decide on a day nursery try and have a backup carer just in case your child does come down with something. Try and book in some settles these are really important for your child to bond with their keyworker and also for you to form a bond with them to. This will help when your child’s start date gets closer and your return to work gets closer, insuring your child is settled will make your return to work smoother.

Choosing Childcare is very important. Always go with your heart, your choice has to be right for you and your little one.

I wish all you mummy’s the best of luck. X

 

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us Kylie, we wish you and your family the best of luck over the next few months and hope your return to work in the future is as happy and successful as before.

 

Going back to work

Over half of Mothers who have children under 3 are working Mums. You have to do what is right for your family, which usually means making sure you can put food on the table, clothes on their back and a roof over their heads.

It’s a big worry having to juggle returning to work alongside your important parenting skills, but fret not, many mums are in the same boat and can offer advice and comforting words. Check out forums such as NetMums or even twitter for like-minded Mummies.

We’ve also got some tips and tricks for you, so read on to hopefully find some piece of mind for your future childcare woes.

 

  • First things first you need to have a clear idea on what kind of childcare you want. Some parents are lucky enough to have accommodating Grandparents but if not, you might be going down the Day Nursery, Nanny or Childminder route. We advise you start thinking about your options as soon as possible, maybe even before baby is born (because lets face it you won’t have time once little one is here).

 

  • Once you know your childcare options, make sure you plan visits to the setting before making rash decisions. You have to feel comfortable leaving your child in the care of somebody else and imagine if you were a week away from returning to work and you realise you personally don’t feel happy with the child care you’ve picked, nightmare!!

 

  • Equally your little one needs to feel comfortable too. Not all children like nursery daycare or you may find their not challenged enough or really benefit from a sole charge nanny. Start your settles into your child care options early so you can access the situation in plenty of time and use a plan B if necessary.

 

  • Have a plan B! Always look at other options. Research local nurseries, child minders and nannies so you know you have other possibilities if needed in the future.

 

  • Think about what you might do if and when your child is ill. Starting a new setting often brings lots of new germs. It may be worth starting them a couple of weeks early into their childcare setting so you are still around to pick them up if necessary. (You may also pick up any bugs they bring home and you don’t want to be calling in sick on your first week back, awkward!).

 

  • Remember things will improve. Your little one may cause a fuss when you first leave them in their new setting but it usually only takes 2-3 weeks before they settle down and feel truly comfortable. Try to remain positive as your anxieties will transfer to baby.

 

  • If possible talk to your work place about flexible hours in order to take into consideration your child care needs. You never know, if they are aware of the situation they may be more understanding when issues do arrive.

 

  • Remember its not just down to you. Your partner needs to be involved too and equally needs to feel happy and comfortable where your baby is being looked after day to day. Involve them in the process, let them visit the childcare setting and make it understood that he may need to take time off work to help settle them into the setting or to look after them when they are sick.

 

Remember Mums, its not easy and things don’t always go to plan. Here at Daybreak Nurseries we have a lot of working Mummies who are going to share their experiences of returning to work on here over the next few weeks as part of our #wearemumstoo campaign. Please remember to come back and read their experiences I’m sure their will be tears, tantrums and of course lots of smiles too.

Good Luck if you are returning to work soon, you can comment below telling us how you felt going back to work or equally tweet us at @DBNurseries using the #wearemumstoo